Top Ten Tips To Being Happy.
I guess the first place to start is by understanding what we actually mean when we say happy.
Many people set themselves on a journey to seek happiness without ever understanding that it is not a simple destination.
Happiness is the journey and there is no singular destination happy.
Happiness is the view from the window, it’s the route you take, the way you deal with diversions and unexpected obstacles, it’s the people you travel with and the experiences along the way.
If you view happiness as something that you can attain then it’s likely that it will remain out of reach, instead you can learn to view happiness as simply a state of being.
Now being happy does not mean that you will never feel negative emotions. All emotions are a normal part of being human.
Learning to go through life from a base state of happiness will however impact how you are able to deal with negative emotions and difficult things in your life.
The definition of Happy, or Happiness is probably fairly subjective. Personally, I think of my happiness as a state of contentment with my life, an ability to see good in most situations and people, a desire to be kind to others and to experience life to its fullest.
I believe it’s important to distinguish between the more general ‘background’ happiness and the peak moments when we feel joyfully happy. It is possible to be generally unhappy yet experience moments of happiness which are joyful but fleeting.
This post is about making changes that can lead to an underlying background happiness that both results from, and results in, how you live your life and interact with the world.
So, here are 10 things you can do to raise your base level of happiness:
- Practice daily gratitude. List 5 things every day that you are grateful to have in your life. This can be from simply having clean tap water to receiving promotion at work, its up to you!
- Identify some Goals. Humans are goal driven and having something to aim for, no matter how small, gives us some meaning.
- Find a way to get involved in your local community. Can you volunteer for a local group ? or get some friends together to collect litter from a local beauty spot. Being part of something bigger is important as we are social animals and thrive with these connections.
- Eat well. Remember that old saying that we are what we eat. Our food impacts our moods. Eat more fresh vegetables, fresh fruits and whole foods. Minimise the sugars and fats.
- Exercise regularly. You don’t have to run the Iron man challenge 😉 but as a minimum walk briskly 3 times every week. Maybe find a group to walk with and improve your social life at the same time.
- Gently challenge any negative beliefs you might have. If you find yourself thinking I cant, I should, I must, or I need then aim to substitute for more positive statements such as I could if I wanted, I want to, I choose to.
- Make time for YOU every week. Book your YOU time into your diary and learn to prioritise it. It doesn’t have to be big, maybe a bubble bath with candles and mood music, or a facial, or a coffee in your favourite cafe, or an hour to read your favourite magazine. You deserve it 🙂
- Aim to carry out a ‘random act of kindness’ every week. Maybe buy a coffee for the person in the queue next to you, or carry someones shopping, chat to an elderly neighbour, help a stressed colleague… the list of options is endless.
- Practice loving yourself. List your strengths and qualities, your achievements and success. Notice all the parts of your body that work well for you and enable you to live. Focus on the good.
- Learn a new skill. There are great adult education programmes about or online course, theres sailing and cycling, singing and writing, baking and patisserie…again, the lists are endless. We are pre-progrmmed to keep learning so go on, what are you waiting for.
Now remember that habits take time to change so don’t expect to feel fabulously happy straight away. This is about making a long term commitment to experiencing life from a basis of happiness.
Start now and notice how much better you start to feel over the coming months.
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